The economy is not to blame

It is not the economy killing your business…name is rude

It is the lost art of communication and simple etiquette.  Yes, I said it people as a society are rude and sadly most do not even know it.  The marvels of technology and the ability to ‘get to the point’ like we see on Twitter is not meant to replace manners. 

In the attempt to take back our time we are missing out on the joys of creating real relationships and most of our actions are being interpreted by our peers as down right rude.  Loving all the systems I have in place to help me complete tasks faster in my mind frees me up to strengthen my connections, create new ones and pamper my clients. There are areas you just do not compromise on for speed and many of these professional etiquette compromises we make as well as in some cases just outright ignore are the real reason businesses are failing. 

So I attended a spectacular gala fundraiser event for a group I am passionate about with an air of excitement as my company is presenting a scholarship for the furthering of education.  The recipient is taking the stage to give her speech of what this means to her as I inch the edge of my seat camera in hand, shallow breathing, and eyes glistening with the beginnings of heartstring tears…when my ears are invaded by sounds of Droid Turbo ring tone and a loud explanative. My first thought is oh what a shame she forgot to silence her phone as I was sure she would mute it and be so embarrassed. Nope, no embarrassment there as she proceeds to answer at her table during what I can only think would have been a very moving speech, but I would not know as I missed it while this person proceeded to tell another attendee at her table (two seats away) what the phone call was about. 

not an excuseYour first reaction is probably to be as appalled as I was because reading it like that gives it a new perspective.  But, this happened all over the room throughout the entire event.  And this sadly is not the exception to the norm.  We are in a moment in time where basic manners are no longer taught in schools and sadly not in homes.  Generation Z is moving in and they are trying to travel through life faster than Generation X and leaving the Millennials in their wake.  I am not by any means saying fast is bad, I really enjoy fast options in many areas of life.  But, fast does not mean or excuse rude. 

Use a little common sense in deciding what can be fast and what requires finesse and if there is not enouphone in moviegh common sense to go around sign up for a lot of courses and retrain your brain.  Courses to help you save your public reputation and company that I would recommend would be in the following areas (just to start with).

  • Phone Etiquette: how to take and leave messages, recording your voicemail, how to answer and return calls, volume control, how to text and when…
  • Greeting Etiquette: at work, at events, in professional settings, cold calling, and outside of work (you never know where a client will be found or who is around you)
  • How to communicate with your customers: seriously this is a lost art. At meetings, in passing, when something is needed, in appreciation, how and when to pamper  
  • Email Etiquette: length, verbiage, font color and size, what should be in an email and what should never be included, when to use caps – did you know initial response from over 90% of people reading an email with caps is that you are angry? Even if it is something good… food for thought.
  • Co-worker Etiquette: Do you have all I’s a few D’s or are your staff C’s and S’s – do you even know? You should… If you know and educate them how to communicate properly you will see an over 65% drop in office drama. That in itself should make you stop reading this and search for a class for you entire company!

pay attentionWe are always being observed and analyzed by those around us in person, online and by word of mouth.  What kind of impression are you making? I can tell you when that phone was answered in the middle of the event I was at, my first reaction was to look at the place card to see what company sponsored that table. Tomorrow is too late to win back the customer offended today that could have been avoided with a little common courtesy and respect.  Slow down and reconnect with life, make a new friend, silence your technology and hear what is in front of you, make eye contact with the next person you cross paths with and greet them genuinely – smile to your eyes! There are plenty of fast opportunities to take advantage of etiquette is not one of them…